Welcome to the Relationship Doctor

Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Sex Therapist, Author, Child Custody Mediator, Divorce Coach and Mediator

I have 42 years experience in helping people get into relationships that fit them, assist them in sustaining relationships, help them through impasses and conflict, guide them in resolving sex and power issues, and if necessary learn to deal with divorce and custody issues with dignity and respect.
My three publications can assist you in addressing many of the dilemmas you will encounter in relationships at various stages. Just click on the book covers to the left for further descriptions of these books and ways to obtain them.
In addition, there are several articles in the publication section that I have written on marriage and divorce which also reflect my unique perspective.

Core Philosophy:
My philosophy is based on the view that thinking which creates the illusion of separation is at the core of all of our problems and that learning to join is the answer to one’s healing. This is accomplished by learning to accept the unacceptable, whether it is powerlessness, disappointment, emptiness, or fear. If one can join with all aspects of their humanity without judgment, and see the positive intention of each part of themselves that they are objecting to, then the path is open to all of their goals.

Core Audience:
I want to work with people who are having difficulty with either getting into a relationship, dealing with difficulties that emerge in the course of a relationship or marriage, including all sexual dilemmas, as well as those who have decided to end their marriage through divorce. I only want to assist people who are serious, open, and committed to going through the process and facing any of the obstacles inherent in the stages listed. This in-depth approach is not for people who are looking for band aids or easy fixes, or for those who are not willing to truly look in the mirror at them selves.

What I offer:
My clients learn to get off the emotional roller coaster and become more accepting of themselves. As a result they are able to walk through life rather than run from their fears, enabling them to have more energy available to achieve their life goals and dreams. Also they learn to be in intimate relationships as an equal, free and expressive partner, no longer caught up in negative beliefs, old stories, and avoidance of their true self.
My single clients learn to date with a whole different attitude based on respect, trust, and honesty. They learn to appreciate whatever dating plan reflects their current life stance, and what is needed to change that plan.
My married clients learn to create a relationship built around a WE rather than competitive “I’s” in which real agreements of participation and intimacy are formed on every level.
My divorcing clients learn to end their relationships with dignity so that the family continues in a different form and is not destroyed for the children. As part of this process they learn to sort out the tasks of divorce from various emotional agendas so that they can achieve a real divorce as distinguished from one in name only.

Please contact me if you would like answers to specific relationship comments and questions regarding all stages of relationships.